A fellow brain injury survivor messaged me saying:
I’m having a very rough day/night.
I have a humongous crush on one of my physical therapists and an even bigger one on my personal trainer. Today, my main PT (Physical therapist) had to have yet another discussion with me on my acting “boy crazy” and how the valentines plans I thought I had with the PT I have the big crush on are inappropriate. And now all I keep thinking of is my 10 year school reunion this June and how I’ll likely be the only only virgin.
I can’t seem to catch a break.
She added, and while I’ve been talking to you, a friend posted.
I replied:
I’m sorry to hear you had a rough day. I think it’s important to ask yourself why you care so much about finding a boy and losing your virginity?
Sometimes we build unimportant things up in our mind. The truth is there are probably better things/more important things to put your energy towards.
Plus, no one at your 10 year reunion would be able to know you’re a virgin. And I promise no one is wondering that. Only you!
Also, i like that tweet you shared and I’ve wondered before what my life would have been like if I never had a brain injury. It’s okay to have those thoughts. You don’t know who the alternate you would’ve become. Shoot, what if non brain injury me became a crackhead? You just don’t know so don’t worry about things you have no control over.
Hope this helps.
In Closing
I think it’s interesting how we all manifest our life at times to be this big, beautiful thing with infinite success and happiness. The truth is, that doesn’t exist and life often kicks us in the ass at times and it’s how we react to those moments of adversity that will result in how we feel about ourselves. It’s important to know that we are all in control of how we react during tough times and moments of adversity. Your perspective controls how you feel!
Are you going to overcome it?