Last week I posted the question to Facebook, Can anger be a good thing?
I was unsure how others would react.
Would they think I was angry?
Would they think I was unhappy?
Would they be concerned about me?
I then realized I shouldn’t be concerned about what people think or how they perceive me and posted the question.
The amount of reactions and comments I got surprised me, making me think anger is something many others deal with or at least have strong thoughts towards.
“The unexamined life is not worth living.”
I’ve had moments of anger in life making me feel like I have no control or power. That’s the worst feeling, having no control. Especially when you do everything right and bad things continue to happen. Then again, what’s considered bad is subjective and to some knocking over the salt shaker can screw up their day and to others they believe everything happens for a reason – I’m starting to lean towards the latter.
GOING TO MY PAST- I remember when I had my second brain injury and the doctor told my parents and I there’s nothing he could do to save me and to basically take me home to die. Now I admit, when the second brain injury started happening the words, are you shitting me, ran through my mind several times.
It’s easy to ask why? Or Why did this happen to me?
However in all honesty when those thoughts ran through my mind I often thought, if it didn’t happen to me it might happen to someone else and I’d rather have it be me than one of my family members.
I feel like I was built to handle it, as crazy as it sounds.
During the second brain injury I was in such a state of disbelief and pain I’m not sure I could even recognize anger because I was so vulnerable but, it was in there. I have to believe the entire situation scared the living day lights out of my parents and probably made them angry, especially when that doctor told me to my face, a 16 year old boy, I was going to die.
Later, during this journey there were moments where I was ready to die and was okay with it. I just wanted the discomfort and pain to go away.
Laying in a hospital bed with tubes running through your body is no way to live.
After the doctor said there was nothing he could do, my parents, rather than stew in anger used it to get me a second, third and fourth opinion which was a trip to Akron, Ohio, a laser surgery in Buffalo and brain surgery in Ann Arbor.
So, to answer my question, can anger be a good thing?
Yes, hell yes! If you channel it correctly and use it to accomplish a goal!